Visitation, Wake, and Viewing: What to Expect

These three terms overlap significantly, and families often use them interchangeably — but there are some real distinctions worth knowing.

What is a visitation?

A visitation is a gathering, often held the evening before or the morning of a funeral, where family and friends can offer condolences in person. It may or may not include the body being present.

What’s the difference between a wake and a visitation?

A wake describes largely the same kind of gathering, with specific cultural roots - particularly in Irish and Irish-American Catholic tradition - as a longer, sometimes overnight gathering. Today, the term is often used interchangeably with “visitation.”

What is a viewing, and is an open casket required?

A viewing specifically refers to seeing the body, typically in an open casket. This can happen:

• As part of a broader visitation, open to all attendees
• As a private viewing just for close family, separate from the larger visitation

No, an open casket isn’t required - whether to have one at all is entirely a family’s choice. Some families choose a closed casket, or no casket present at all, depending on personal preference or the condition of the body.

How long does a visitation typically last?

Often a few hours, sometimes split into an afternoon and evening session, though this varies widely by family preference and funeral home scheduling.

What should I expect if I’m attending?

• A quiet, respectful atmosphere; dress is typically conservative
• A simple expression of condolence is enough - you don’t need an elaborate statement
• A guest book is often available to sign
• It’s common to see photos or memorabilia displayed, celebrating the person’s life

Do I need to say something to the family at a visitation?

A simple, brief expression of sympathy is enough - you don’t need to prepare anything elaborate. Many people simply say they’re sorry for the loss and share a brief happy memory if they have one.

Specific customs vary by family, culture, and religious tradition — see our Faith, Culture & Traditions guides for more on specific practices.